Proof Of Life: Ep." O3—"Adulthood Feels Like a Subscription I Forgot to Cancel" ft Iheoma
“I’m not just going through the motions—I’m actually becoming.”
Here’s to one of the first genuine fans of our random thoughts series who owns every part of her becoming, including the messy parts. Our guest for Episode 3 of Proof of Life is Iheoma: a rising marketing mind, lover of fashion, co-host of an up-and-coming refreshingly honest podcast, The Double Perspective, and co-founder of Tryve Africa, a platform empowering young creatives with jobs, mentorships, and scholarships.
From journaling her fits to restarting her purpose, Iheoma reminds us that life doesn’t have to be linear to be beautiful. That chaos can coexist with clarity. That softness doesn’t mean weakness, and that managing money in Nigeria is basically a spiritual battle.
In this episode, she opens up about friendship, fashion, faith, finances, love in Naija, and the random thought that might just be too real.
Let’s dive in
What does Proof of Life mean to you right now—in this version of your journey?
I’m not just going through the motions—I’m actually becoming. Becoming more self-aware, more intentional, more grounded. The proof is in the fruit: the work I put out speaks for itself, my mind is slowly becoming a safer place, and I’m in the healthiest space I’ve ever been with God, with love, and with my people.
You’re building a life around marketing, fashion, deep conversations, and now social impact. What’s the thread that connects it all for you?
Right now, the thread is me. I’m at the center of everything people see online, and I like it that way. It gives me agency to be the leading lady of my life. Honestly, everything I’ve done so far was preparing me for this phase. I’m a true conversationalist—deep conversations help me untie knots in my head and heart, and in turn, I get to impact others.
You co-host a podcast called The Double Perspective. What’s one episode or topic that has left a lasting impression on you—and why?
We only have two episodes so far, but the first one really hit deep. It was about female friendships—especially those with older women—and how they’ve shaped the way I think, love, and even forgive myself. That conversation felt like finally saying “thank you” to the women like my cohost who have held me, checked me, and helped me become softer without losing my edge.
What inspires your outfit of the day and when do you choose it - mornings or the night before?
It started out random—just me having fun and documenting what I wear. Some days, it’s me saying “this is what I have, but wait till I can afford my actual style.” I usually pick my fits for the week on Sundays so it keeps me organised and focused on work.
You’re not afraid to restart—you’re building Tryve Africa from the ground up. What have you learned from starting over, and what keeps you going on tough days?
Starting over has always felt like pressing the reset button on a game I refuse to lose. Every time I restart, I come back home to my why. Tryve Africa came from that same spirit, it wasn’t planned, the idea just dropped, and we ran with it. What keeps me going is God, honestly. And my co-founder, who makes it feel like we’re not just building something—we’re building something good and relevant to young creatives job hunting and starting out in their career.
What are your thoughts on love and relationships in Nigeria
Love in this country? Whew. One word: chaos. It’s hard out here for a romantic. People are negotiating affection like business deals. Everyone’s calculating, everyone’s guarded. But for someone like me, who still believes in the softness of love, it’s been tough. I’ve cried those “Jesus wept” tears, trust me. But right now, I’m in a relationship where love feels like rest. Like, I’m finally safe. And that’s more precious than anything.
How do you manage money in this economy while chasing your dreams? Any lessons or hacks you’ve learned along the way?
Managing money in this economy feels like trying to build a house with a spoon. It’s crazy. But I’ve learned a few hacks: if you can afford it now, get it. Don’t postpone joy. And don’t overwhelm yourself with 10 side hustles—find 1 or 2 things that feed you daily and don’t drain your soul. But if you know where people are dancing for money, call me.
If you had the power to change one thing about Nigerian society, what would it be—and why?
If I could change one thing, it’d be how we think. A liberated mind is dangerous—everything we suffer from—from bad leadership to poor service delivery—stems from how we think. We don’t question things enough. We settle too easily. And the government knows this. Maybe that’s why they keep feeding us distractions like fuel prices and noodles, while they quietly auction off our future. But the moment we wake, we win.
What’s on your current playlist? Give us three songs that match your mood this month.
This month, I’ve been leaning into gospel music heavy. I decided to take a break from secular music and the peace I’ve found is unmatched. These three have been on repeat:
• Altar – Hulvey & Forrest Frank
• YET – The King Will Come
• Your Ways Better – Forrest Frank
Finally, the all-important question…haha. Share your random thought?
I’m starting to think adulthood is just a subscription I forgot to cancel—renewing monthly with no benefits.
3 Random Thoughts and 1 Business Idea
Keep your morals aside first sha.
If Spiders host webinars, Sharks will host Shark-Tank…Just saying.
What will your font be called? Me: TBBlian
Sometimes its exhausting, can we just breathe
When I saw how much OnlyFans generated, I was like I could write their scripts and direct their movies (Not everytime , stuck in washing machine radaradarada). Anyways, we stick to what we know.
What am I watching?
What I like about Vampire Diaries is, you can watch it like a teen and be giddy about the relationships, and you can now watch it as an adult and recognize them for what they really are — Toxic and annoying people… Tueh!
Like me here.
Elena Gilbert fans, please don’t tear my shirt.
Anyways, Proof of Life might become a 2-episode weekly series due to the sheer volume of people I have to interview. Phew! Thanks for loving this.
It is safe to say that this is a good place to peace out for the week.
Till next week! Have Fun.